The teenaged Chesler in the U.S., with the Afghan who became her husband
This has happened to many American girls, including my cousin's daughter who is still recovering from a horrendous marriage to a Kuwaiti in CA. She'd grown up next door to him and thought he was as "American" as they come. He suddenly changed overnight after they'd been married a couple of years and tried to force her into a plural marriage.
Oh.
Not about living in San Francisco.
My life of hell in an Afghan harem (Misadventures of Jewish feminist in burkaland)
When the oldest daughter turned thirteen the family planed a trip to Palestine to visit the grandparents. When I asked her if she would be wearing a burka while on vacation she replied, "of course not, I'm an American and we don't have to that". When they returned from the one month vacation she was wearing a burka. And she has worn one in public ever since. The kids at public school tease her quite a bit and it bothers her so I have not mentioned it.
However, I can't help but notice that she has changed.