“In other words: Passive/Aggressive, a personality defect.”
Well, I am an obsessive/compulsive perfectionist AND passive/aggressive and happen to think that both are blessings! ;-)
“passive/aggressive” is PC, which is why we are in a world of hurt these days.
Those that fail to achieve do not want others to point that out. If someone does a lousy job, we are supposed to be like Dr. Spock and not say they did a bad job but encourage better behavior.
Well, we’ve become so PC as to be so lazy as to never discipline anyone for anything. A 10 year old child could drop his pants, take a huge poop on the living room floor, and we are supposed to say, “Good boy! What a great poopy! Hopefully next time you can make it to the bathroom, hmmkay?”, instead of knocking that out of control kid into next week.