I am not confusing anything, as each life is unique and the circumstances surrounding that life are unique.
The grief happens whether or not the girl is released to her parents. They are very aware that the prognosis is grim and that she is gravely ill. They are leaving room for a miracle, basically. And their grief is happening in the context of their faith and their understanding of the Lord at work in their circumstances.
30 years ago we would not be having this argument, as the value of human life - any human life - was not questioned and hospitals weren’t constantly forced into (or choosing) an economic rather than a Hippocratic model.
Would I take her into my home - I am not able because I am the sole support of my household. Would I contribute to her care - you bet.
I had an adult foster care home for several years and humans, even old, very ill or dying humans, do not “take up valuable space”. They are each uniquely created, infinitely valuable. As with my elderly residents, God knew this little girl before her birth and He knows the course of her life before she was even born.
The question is, will we extend grace and mercy and the benefit of the doubt to her and her parents or not? Believe it or not, science is still an art and doesn’t know all the answers. What do you believe and what do you value?
If you are a Christian, I would suggest you look up the story of the little girl and Lazarus, both were dead before Christ intervened. It ain’t over until the Lord says it’s over, or even then.
As it says in 1st Thessalonians:13 Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. 14 For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him.
Blessings,
30 years ago this girl would not have been put on a ventilator.