we differ.
Sharing, sometimes....has the same effect as complaining.
Many, see it that way, that’s all I am saying.
Like in my case..my dad’s apparent illness put people thru a wringer , for 8 months.
My FiL otoh, went three years without alarming a soul till he was at the end.
I just think, the other people, are a secondary consideration....unless said person is neglecting medical help.