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I wish men would stop the superficiality. I have a beautiful overweight daughter who would probably be any man’s dreamboat wife, she is intelligent, attractive, funny, devoted, kind and beautiful both inside and out.

American men don’t give her a second glance.

I wish men would stop the superficiality. I have a beautiful overweight daughter who would probably be any man’s dreamboat wife, she is intelligent, attractive, funny, devoted, kind and beautiful both inside and out.

How fat are we talking? I don't mind a little extra weight on a woman, but once you go from "pleasingly plump" to "gross obesity" then we've gone from "a girl with a bit of a weight problem" to "a girl with some serious mental health issues". I've seen people so obese that they are effectively disabled, and it blows my mind. These are people who have willingly chosen to be disabled. THAT is a mental health issue, and even if such people lost the weight, they would still be problem children who most likely could not maintain their end of a relationship.

Let me ask you this: what would you think of an unemployed guy who dressed all the time like a slob, never shaved, and had a big beer belly? Would you want him for your daughter? Would your daughter want him? Probably not, because it would demonstrate some character flaws that would likely translate into relationship problems, or unreliability with regard to child-rearing and what-not. Same with your daughter. Why can't she lose the weight? Is she lazy? Does she have a sense of entitlement that says "I should be able to be as fat and nasty as I want and fit, attractive, successful men should still love me!"? If so, then she is unfit for a relationship until she gets her stuff together, and men instinctively realize that.

Encourage your daughter to get healthy. Not only will she have her pick of men, but she'll have a better life with or without them and she'll be happier.

I wish men would stop the superficiality. I have a beautiful overweight daughter who would probably be any man’s dreamboat wife, she is intelligent, attractive, funny, devoted, kind and beautiful both inside and out. American men don’t give her a second glance.

Are you sure she isn't being over-selective, and passing over the men who WOULD date her, in favor of waiting for Prince Charming?

If I wasn’t happily married for 25 years I would love to meet your daughter.

And yes, men are as superficial as women. And everyone is missing out.

Not trying to be harsh,but: If your daughter is all you say she is, she could exercise more and eat less. Don’t blame men. They can decide to date or not date someone for their own reasons.

At least she has the power to change since it is not some physical deformity. It really is up to her.