ps:
If you don’t have enough income to handle the alimony and your living expenses both............and you can’t find a higher-paid job, then DO please sign up for the various welfare programs (you know, the ones most of us knock all to Hell ...here on freerepublic, ha!).
You don’t have to stay on the dole forever, but at least until you can work your situation out better on your own, and especially if you’ve been hit (for the present, anyway, until you can get it fixed) with an outrageous alimony order...
do go ahead and sign up for all the “free goodies”...welfare, food stamps, Obamaphone (gawd!), whatever you need to get through this bad patch in your life....
Reality is what it is. Occasionally we have to compromise like this. SO be it. You will get things worked out and get back on your own two feet.. .it just takes awhile in such situations (when courts are involved)....and if you need the help, go get it for now and ... rest at peace at night, don’t fret over this.
Blessings,
M
Praying for you. Don’t despair.
There are many saying about dealing with adversity and my favorite is when one door closes, another opens. I have found that to be so true. When I just couldn’t see any good, it was right there in front of me.
Having a job you love shows that God hasn’t forsaken you. He guided you to that job and He is there to walk these weary miles with you.
Be strong, My FRiend.
I Thessalonians 5:24
Our Lord is faithful. He will do as He promised. His words are not empty promises and He neither leaves us forsaken or forgotten. Rather, He waits patiently for your response to this crisis. Find some promises in Psalms and Proverbs and then affirm your belief in this in your prayers to God and He will move to action.
Reading Job can also be a solace.
It seems from bad times much wisdom comes, wisdom that can be used for those just entering into the trials you’ve already experienced. Use this time in church groups and teach the wisdom given to you. Preach the Word my friend. Do not look back and ask why?
I don't have an answer for you but through experience, I know things will sort themselves out. Have faith in God and yourself and the answers will come.
Good luck.
Our Lord and Savior asked, “Why have you forsaken me?” though He knew that His suffering was God’s plan. He knew.
We don’t know. We must trust in His redemption and give ourselves to His Promise. I will pray for your strength in His name.
The only way to get through a divorce is to pray continually. Been there. It was the only thing that worked. And it revolutionized my life for the better.
Don’t worry about big, fancy-sounding prayers. Just the small stuff will do, whatever is in the moment, like, when tossing and turning, “Father, for the sake of my job that I need to feed my children, help me fall asleep tonight and wake up refreshed enough to do my job.”
Or, when worrying about what to say to the ex or to a lawyer, “Holy Spirit, speak through me now or hold my tongue. Let only Your words come out of my mouth, to say the right thing at the right time and no more.”
Prayers.
By the way, your old friend (your dog) will be happy for you when you get another pup. He knows you aren’t replacing him. He knows that by getting another pup you are letting into your life a loyal companion that will love you without question. Your old friend knows another pup will bring you love and allow you to love when needed most.
Stay strong.
Hang on. It sounds like you’re going through the roughest part of it now.
I’ve had my share of very difficult times too ... including a very painful divorce.
I can look back now at a lot of those hard times and realize that maybe things happened for a reason. If I “had it all” and hadn’t been through the hard times, I may have felt like I didn’t really need the Lord. I am much wiser now and I know I need the Lord in my life.
Hang in there. You’re in my prayers.
To You, O Lord, I call; My rock, do not be deaf to me, For if You are silent to me, I will become like those who go down to the pit- Psalm 28:1
Thank you all for your loving responses. I do have a job, a well paying government job working for the Navy. We incurred a bunch of debts which I am trying to pay off. She is living with a lying welfare mooch who fills her head with all kinds of stories about me. I have an adopted daughter who because of the situation now lives with her natural mother and is doing so much better.
It’s just so lonely and I could never stand being alone. I wish I was back in the Navy, I miss having shipmates around.
Stay tough.
You can do this.
There will be better days ahead.
I promise.
As the old bronc rider says: it’s not how many times ya get thrown, it’s how many times you climb back on.
Realistically, your job (work) is number one.
Spiritually, let Jesus take the wheel. We’ve got your six.
Matt 18:20
Prayers do get answered, and all God asks is a little faith on your behalf. It will be tried and tested. Ironically, a lot of people seem to most want to surrender their faith when it's the only thing they have left. Hang in there.
"We are, not metaphorically but in very truth, a Divine work of art, something that God is making, and therefore something with which He will not be satisfied until it has a certain character. Here again we come up against what I have called the “intolerable compliment.” Over a sketch made idly to amuse a child, an artist may not take much trouble: he may be content to let it go even though it is not exactly as he meant it to be. But over the great picture of his life—the work which he loves, though in a different fashion, as intensely as a man loves a woman or a mother a child—he will take endless trouble—and would doubtless, thereby give endless trouble to the picture if it were sentient. One can imagine a sentient picture, after being rubbed and scraped and re-commenced for the tenth time, wishing that it were only a thumb-nail sketch whose making was over in a minute. In the same way, it is natural for us to wish that God had designed for us a less glorious and less arduous destiny; but then we are wishing not for more love but for less.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain
Take care, the Lord will see that the light at the end of your tunnel is NOT an oncoming train.
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Very, very sorry about your dog. You didn’t need that to happen, no, no, no.
Obviously I don’t know what happened to cause your atty to get his license revoked, and maybe you don’t either, but I imagine it must have been extremely serious.
It might be that you are due a refund of any money you paid him, especially any unused retainer funds. Perhaps his taking money from you was fraudulent, whether intentional or not, because of whatever issues he had that led to his license being revoked.
Many states have some kind of fund that compensates people who are defrauded by lawyers. I would call the state bar association and see if they can give you any help or guidance.
Also, I think you are a veteran, correct? Perhaps the VA could help you out in some way, or even the VFW or something like that. You might be able to find a fellow vet who is a lawyer who could help you out pro-bono.
Good luck and don’t give up, although I know it is very hard sometimes.
I’m coming through some tough times myself and while things are far from perfect at this time they have improved and I am grateful for that. Whatever is wrong or lacking in my current circumstances, I am not complaining about it, because things are better than they’ve been in a while.
Your faith is a shield. You must wear it like armor, FRiend. Reject the turmoil in your life and cast it out in Christ’s name. Don’t just think it; say it out loud and believe it. Then it will be so.
Psalm 91:9-16 NIV
If you say, “The Lord is my refuge,” and you make the Most High your dwelling, no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent.
For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
You will tread on the lion and the cobra; you will trample the great lion and the serpent.
“Because he loves me,” says the Lord , “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
He will call on me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.
With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation.”