RE Jack...
The Brothers Grimm and some of the ‘classic’ kids tales are THE most violent things ever written. Kids are getting munched on and torn to shreds around every corner, people dying/being killed, imprisoned, tortured ect.
I highly people read the originals again through adult eyes and it is an eye opening experience.
I always took the approach with my kid of watching TV/movies with her and explaining things on levels she was ready to grasp. I never limited her viewing as many parents do. I just gave her a reality check on what she was watching. Lots of people oppose that but oh well. It worked great for us.
I used to hear from people how much more mature she was than other kids her age. And I think it was because she wasn’t wrapped in bubble wrap from reality. She grew up into a responsible adult that never donned a Freddie Kruger glove and hacked up children...Brothers Grimm style ;)
The thing about violence in fairy tales is that kids know it’s just a story. They may also include questionable connotations, but ambiguously and lost on most adults, let alone kids. But I think you’re right that overprotecting a kid by limiting everything they’re allowed to see is keeping them in a bubble and not letting them mature. It’s the same as someone living in a real bubble: they never develop an immunity to germs when they’re never exposed to them.