That standard is too arbitrary. Many adults voluntarily give up career to care for their children as an agreement within their marriage, only to have the breadwinner later hook up with another person and then try to take the children away -- "change partners and dance" -- as if the marriage and childcare agreement never existed. Yet children do so much better if at least one parent can focus on their development instead of shuttling them off to a series of paid "caregivers".
The fact is, God hates divorce. He also advises against premarital sex. That way, people don't just get involved and then try to decide if they are the right partners to go the distance with each other. But that's the modern way. Grown people with no morals think they can have it all -- uncommitted sex, personal advancement, preferences and whims, with no sacrifice. Then they hit a bump in the road and start ripping up their children's lives and breaking their hearts, permanently.
Just no.
“only to have the breadwinner later hook up with another person and then try to take the children away — “change partners and dance” — as if the marriage and childcare agreement never existed.”
In fact, I think if a spouse commits adultery, that should be a custody breaker right there; how on earth can a parent who puts the life of their spouse in danger (mistresses/lovers of married people have been notorious for being the murderer of the wife/husband of their lovers) and have custody yanked and also, have visitations limited.
Adultery has been one of the top reasons that people get killed; the wife or husband fools around, the lover ends up killing the spouse of their lover. Like for example, Carolyn Warmus murdered the wife of her lover, hoping to become the next spouse.
As for this mess, I hope the kid finds some kind of peace and someone should be listening to what the kid wants, not what the moron judge wants.