The current generation of young men has grown up in a time in which they see how men can be taken to the cleaners in a divorce. They also have grown up in a time in which even casual dating relationships tend to end up with the people having sex together. They have also grown up in a time in which social norms of marriage and family life and children have been shattered.
Considering all of this, many young men just don’t see marriage and family as life goals worth pursuing.
Anecdotal evidence seems to be, that the feelings towards traditional marriage and family as goals worth pursuing, are strongest in evangelical and other strong faith communities.
Otherwise, many look at marriage and family and children as a lifestyle choice which they don’t want to make.
Until “family court” is corrected and made a more equal grounds, I don’t blame young men one iota. They accept pretty much all the risk regardless if they mess up or if she decides she’s had enough and want’s an upgrade (no-fault divorce). I’m coaching my sons now not to even think about marriage in their 20’s and with today’s climate, 30’s might be pushing it. I am trying to teach them to get everything financially settled (home, good bit of retirement, no debt, paid off vehicles, etc..) before entertaining marriage so if she does leave for whatever reason, they are protected and won’t lose it all in family court (my state law is pretty strict about assets before marriage). Sad state of affairs today.
society has turned men only into wallets, they have zero rights, family court is geared to destroy them and also keep/increase tension between them.