I tell New Fathers
Beware the Babysitter
Nothing but Trouble
New fathers are feeling isolated and stressed. Often their wives are not paying much attention to them. Add to the mix a young attractive woman, whom they deal with on a personal level on a daily basis, it is not uncommon for them to transfer affection and wind up with inappropriate attraction to the babysitter.
Men should be made aware of this pitfall, and understand what it all means and what they should do about it, which is to keep an arms-distance relationship with any woman not your wife and realize that any attraction is likely the result of stress and lack of sleep. It is certainly nothing worth ruining your life over.
Needless to say, the same applies to the mother in this case. Losing her sight is no doubt very stressful. Now she adds to that the stress of divorce. What happens when the Au Pair dumps her next year?