I feel lucky my marriage was never like that. If I had a woman tell me she was sweaty and gross every night I probably couldn’t get it up with her.
He should make a spreadsheet detailing his efforts to make a baby with her and then keep hydrated and let biology run it’s course. Whether people want to admit it or not, that’s the whole crux of the matter. But for brief moments, intimacy merely makes for great sentiment, but family is forever, a giant leap for mankind!
1. I like sweaty....but that’s just me. Besides...if done right...one is sweaty and stinky after sex anyway.
2. Like I tell everyone who complains that their wives ain’t giving them any...”You ain’t doing it right.” Women will beat your door down if you do.
In the article the wife mentions she had gained weight and was trying to take it off. Seems perhaps part of the problem for her is poor body image? A little romancing can go a long way. Women are not like men, you can’t just expect them to be ready at the drop of a hat. Rather than sending her a spread sheet, he should have been sending her love letters.
“excuses excuses!”
Plus the one day after she said “yes” the next day— what did it say— she was “tender from the night before”. What is he expecting her to do? Does she have a physical condition that makes things painful?
If I was given a spreadsheet, 3x a month would be more than my husband should be expecting in the near future!
When two people marry, each exchanges the potential for having a satisfying sexual relationship with others for his/her spouse agreeing to do everything he/she can to meet the sexual needs of the spouse. If either party defaults on Part B, he/she loses the moral right to complain if the other stops honoring Part A.
Each partner agrees to sexual exclusivity, not to a life of sexual activity granted or withheld at the whim of the other, and usually spiced with emotional manipulation.
A husband or wife should not have to "woo" his or her spouse. Though doing so might very well be part of the "meeting the sexual needs of the other" agreed to.
IOW, when you marry, you lose the moral right to turn the sexual tap on and off when you feel like it.
1 Cor. 7: "2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife."
A lot of people don't like this idea. That's fine. They just shouldn't get married, agreeing to a contract they have no intention of living up to.
BTW, there are situations where one party loses the ability to engage in some or all types of sexual activity for physical reasons. That's tragic, but it doesn't release the spouse from his/her obligation to be sexually faithful. The spouse agrees to do whatever he/she can to meet sexual needs.
Looks a lot like my spreadsheet, except mine is in months not days.
She turns down sex for a damn television show..? Dump her.
What happened on June 5,7,8,14,15,17,23,24,25,26,28,July 2,7,8,9?
The problem isn’t that she won’t have sex. The problem is she won’t have sex with him.
Pretty sure all the action he’ll be getting now is from the computer he made the spreadsheet on.
Leni
Thank you God for Latinas... 3 times a month at 26? Maybe tolerable at 56. This is a “Glacial” relationship. There’s at least 2 billion other women on the planet who are willing to give you excuses. Find one...
If he were my age I would say grab a six-pack and forget about it, but at age 26 he will need more than that. He should try some wine, roses, or maybe a Dillard’s card to get her warmed up. If that doesn’t work there is always a lawyer looking for work, and a woman with a libido, or who could use a Benjamin, out there somewhere.
ping
Sexual desire is 70% hormones. If she isn’t seeing someone else, and she used to find him attractive and there isn’t a reason for her no longer to, then she needs to visit a doctor to get her hormones adjusted. Night and day. She didn’t need shaming on the internet.
I feel for both of them (I didn’t read the article) because people who don’t want to have sex really don’t want to. And people who do really do want to. This can be fixed by hormones or separation.
No man would like it if his wife made a line chart of the droopiness of his penis online as he struggles with ED. Tuesday: half mast. Wednesday: cooked pasta. Thursday: Houston we have lift off, wait, captain: abort, abort! Friday: back to over cooked pasta.