there’s a fella online on youtube that talks about TOR and how it actually sends up red flags to the f bi when they see it beign used- and they can break into it and know who’s using it-
There is no security online-
Part of your problem is that you believe everything you read/see online.
The use of TOR is NOT a red flag. If, however, your IP address pops up on a TOR egress point for a kiddie porn site or some al Qaeda affiliate, THEN you might get a call.
TOR was developed by the government for secure communications, and it's an excellent tool. A majority of web traffic is filtered through fewer than a dozen sites (e.g. Google, Facebook, Twitter). Seeing the Internet in all of its glory, warts and all, is what TOR does for an average user.
The way I like to tell the story is that there are 65535 TCP/UDP ports available on every computer in the world. The grand majority of traffic is on ports under 1000. Anything over 1000 is generally used for port randomization in domain/enterprise environments. MOST of the world's Internet traffic travels over ports 80 (HTTP) and 443 (HTTPS). There are literally thousands of other protocols in use (e.g. NNTP, XMPP, IRC, FTP) still very much in use around the world. To think that the Internet you all know through your web browser is the extent of it is foolish.