But it's nuts that adoption costs so much. We adopted (18 years ago) and I'll always advocate it as an excellent choice, but can't something be done about the cost?
We try not to discourage anybody When somebody asks about the cost of our adoption, we say, "About the same a putting new siding and windows on our house."
Everything is a choice. It's about what you value.
I know someone who adopted two children back in the 80s. Each child cost about $20,000, which included pre-natal care for the mother, as well as hospital care during and after delivery.
You can call your state representative and senator and ask them to sponsor legislation streamlining the process.