“I am not solution-oriented. I don’t see a problem and get giddy at the idea of solving it, patching it up and sending it on its merry way.”
Then you’re not an engineer, so stop pretending to be one.
Go be what you are. Go manage engineers, or design user experiences, or paint or whatever fulfills you.
But realize that the core of tech is solving problems and building things.
Don’t be what you’re not.
That sums up every female (and most of the men) I've ever worked for.
Precisely