Funny had same experience:
Years ago I was introduced to an attractive,pretty, average sized woman.
I did notice her ankles were kinda “puffy” but she was avg overall.
We got along fine and dated for a while and one day I went to her house and got to meet her teenage daughter.
A teenager that was extremely pretty in the face but obese.As in HUGE.
I weaned off the relationship.
I left the area and a few years latter met up with the matchmaker bud and asked about her.
He said she had become obese and said,”Man you did the right thing”.
I told him about the ankles.
My deer ole Maw us’tah say, ‘look at their mother to see what they will look like after having children”
Maw was right again.
J Giles used to say “1st I look at the purse”.
I say 1st I look at the ankles and the Mom.
Maybe vain on my part but I don’t like big/fat/buxom, call it what you want, woman.
I tell my 2 early 20’s sons the exact same thing. It seems that, for the most part, it’s true. I have seen exceptions, though.
In my opinion there is nothing to be sorry about. You like what you like.
Just remember though that it works both ways :) If you expect them to take care of themselves to remain attractive to you... you need to be doing the same.
Then everyone wins :)