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In Sept my husband and I will celebrate our 9th, we were both widowers. His second wedding was a lavish affair as she was the Preacher’s daughter and it was expected.
A preacher married me and late husband in his study, didn’t think the marriage would last LOL it was 23 yrs and till death parted us, I had a simple plain borrowed day dress, he a dress shirt, pants and tie. Cost of license and paying the preacher $25 bucks as it was not a church wedding.
When these two old geezers married in a simple real church wedding, from Dress, cake, food, license, paying the preacher, music from a boom box, no walk down the isle was needed, a friend took photos better than a professional, we pulled it off for around $500. Being 60 the dress was the hardest to find and cost the most, I refused to be married in a hussy’s dress, which is what the brides of today wear. Even Mom of Bride dresses where atrocious.
There is actually some correlation between a lavish wedding and a higher divorce rate.
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