Yep, I hear you.
My wife was a wonderful woman in many ways. But she had her moments, and we got into it sometimes. And there were times when I felt judged by absurd criteria of her criticizing my behavior and actions.
I know it’s a cliche about men from Mars, women from Venus, but I believe there’s something to that.
She was probably sh1t testing you. All women do it and many times even they are not aware they are doing it.