I ran into a guy who is 44. He told me his wife didn’t want kids and he did. After awhile he said to himself if I’m not going have kids, I don’t want to stay married to this $%$@ and I wan to bang other women.
I couldn’t resist asking him how that is working out for him. He said fantastic. Sometimes he just has to stay home for the night. He’s getting so much for different women. I don’t understand his mentality of not wanting to just fine one good woman. But the women are giving it up. 60 million American women and 50 million American men have a STD right now.
As for women are shallow and stupid, it was not my intention to post anything that comes across that way.
Well I know a guy in his late 40’s who married at 32 after being single til then...it lasted just 3 yrs....he’s now been on his own again for 6 yrs. and doing very well being single.
For him it isn’t about being with women..it’s about not having to be accountable to another. To go and be and do whenever he wants. He calls it “freedom” to be himself and not what women want to shape you into.
“As for women are shallow and stupid, it was not my intention to post anything that comes across that way.”
I don’t think you did. I would say that the focus of the content in various articles does lead that way and I made assumptions without reading your post more clearly. I apologize.
The book “Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both” was written in 2007. In it’s pages I found descriptions of college life wherein women are agreeing to be used sexually in exchange for...nothing really. Some of the college girls in the book would cross campus at night on the bus to go to the mens dorm. They’d play ping pong, have pizza, perform sexual acts on their male “friends” and then board the bus late at night to go home. There’s a weird pride in “no strings attached” as if one or more generations of young people have seen the divorce mine fields and decided it’s best not to engage in the battle of the sexes.
The journalist interviews women from ivy league schools who feel “liberated” by their “ability” to sleep with any and all men in order to perform as a “healthy, liberated modern woman.” The men don’t have a reason to choose one woman and while they are decadent in their sexual expectations (sex delivered to the dorms freely) they also don’t consider these freely available (desperate) girls serious relationship-marriage material. Wheels really coming off society - at least in that book and those interviews. Sad.
Don’t know how widespread the attitudes in the book are, but it does seem to be part of the commodification of sex which results in the breakdown of relationships between men and women. The women feel used, the men seem ambivalent but disappointed that there aren’t more girls to choose from (those not on the market for sex) and both seem to fear the perception that they might want something more (relationship - marriage).
Interestingly (I thought), one woman who forced herself to be sexually available for acceptance in her freshman year manages to rein it in and step out of the mad rush to bed. She later shakes her head in horror and says, “What was I thinking????” She is in the minority in that book.