I think Queen Victoria was very dependent on Prince Albert.
After he died she seems to have lost the plot.
Albert is an unsung hero of the British Empire!
Of course she missed Albert and went into deep mourning; yet managed to keep the Empire on an even keel. :-)
Your post is bordering on being Hilaryesque; sadly.
Look, she had a HUGE number of kids, suffered Post Partum Depression after most of those births and Albert, though she relied on him for many things, wasn't "ruling from behind the throne". And before you ask me how I know, I've been a BIG fan of Queen Victoria's since childhood and as such, have read many books about her, read her published diaries and letters, and have avidly studied her, her times, the MPs she had to deal with, watched every single movie and documentary about her and that era, as well as books about her children. Do I know EVERYTHING...every jot & tittle of her life? No, but then, NOBODY alive then, nor now did/does.