I didn’t put my parents in a nursing home or any other government facility. They begged me not to.
They died here in our home.
But you do you.
My dad was going to go to the retirement home with the attached assisted living, he wanted too, really just not to be a burden, but he didn’t really. We talked, had a few beers and came up with a better plan ended up staying with me. I am glad he did. Passed in his sleep on his bed in my house several years later. my kids got to know him well. RIP Dad