I worked in three nursing homes. In one of them I worked in one of my co-workers had a bumper sticker that read “Be Nice To Your Kids, They Pick The Nursing Home’’.
My mother used to drag me along to visit her two sisters, who owned and operated three nursing homes. I was probably seven when I asked her why any family would put a grandparent there. She tried explaining it, but I wasn’t buying and she knew it.
Our family cared for her at home for two years after she no longer knew who any of us were. Putting her in a nursing home or memory care unit was never even a topic of discussion for us.