This past Saturday evening I attended my son’s graduation from high school. I’m divorced and I had not seen him since 2016.
The school had a relatively small graduating class of probably around a 100 students.
I stood/sat in the stands not to far from my ex-wife, who like some, but unlike most, was wearing a mask. She is a nurse.
Of all the students who graduated, ONLY TWO wore masks: my son and one other boy.
It was insanity to be wearing a mask at his age outdoors.
My ex-wife fits perfectly with what Bill explains about people who have a silly fear of that which is not a danger to them and in this case our son.
She’s basically nuts. She had these characteristics before but I did not understand at the time I married her just how severely out of touch with reality she was.
When married to her, I would catch her telling lies about an event we both witnessed. She just refused to see the REAL world. She did not understand REAL risk and maybe was never capable of it.
My son is a good kid, but he is as henpecked as you would imagine any boy who grows up without a father and only a mother, and that mother is unreasonably afraid of not only her own shadow, but shadows that don’t exist.
I feel kinda sorry for him but all I could do was tell him to not be a stranger and call when he needs to talk or needs advice.
He is 18 years old now. It is ...
his life.
I am sorry you are having this experience. You are offering your son a wonderful gift by giving him a place to voice his experience once he is older. If he chooses to remain in the arms of his mother, that is unfortunate and foretells a negative experience for him as a human and for other humans associating with him.
Your son may come to reason. Be present in his adult life.