I have never lived in an HOA development and have never lived in a condo, and never will.
On the other hand you need to pick your neighbors. It becomes a legacy and word of mouth community. I've even had neighbors which shared a mansion with three other families. Several kitchens, 14 bedrooms, formal gardens with fountains, elevator, etc.... Always a babysitter and always a weekend party.
I don’t think a HOA would have an appreciation for my race cars. My one near neighbor loves the sound of them!