He is very confused and isn’t even sure himself what gender he is!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tommy_Dorfman
Tommy Dorfman (born May 13, 1992) is an American actor, best known for playing Ryan Shaver in the Netflix series 13 Reasons Why (2017). His cousin is Andi Dorfman, a former contestant on The Bachelorette.
Dorfman is queer. Dorfman and Peter Zurkuhlen became engaged in April 2015 and married in Portland, Maine on November 12, 2016. In July 2021, Dorfman revealed he and Zurkuhlen had divorced but remain friends.
In November 2017, Dorfman came out as non-binary and began using they pronouns. On July 22, 2021, Dorfman came out as a transgender woman and began using she pronouns. In April 2022, Dorfman identified as a lesbian.