I was in Bar Harbor many times in the 1990s. It was a beautiful place and full of fun women and good eats. But I only went Late May onward.
Lobster gets boring after a while/
Bar Harbor in summer is like being on fifth avenue except in August.
Like much smaller venues and places. No traffic jams.
You went there the wrong time. May through August are the non-R months, the wrong months for lobster.