Before I was married I dated someone who I began to suspect was not who he pretended to be.
One time, I forget why, he began to cry in front of me over something, maybe something I said about him. I can’t remember.
I watched him ‘crying’ and pointed out there were no tears.
He abruptly stopped his ‘crying’, looked at me angrily and said, ‘well, we’re getting to know each other quite well, aren’t we?!’
I was stunned and that was the moment I knew I was right about him.
But I still don’t understand why he basically admitted it to me.
Reminds me of the Sandy Hook dad that was smiling and talking in the background and when his turn came for the microphone he turned on the tears.
See women can make themselves cry. Men aren’t so good at it because we get negative feedback from childhood that crying gets us be a big boy when younger, to later, man up wimp.
Women don’t like men using a manipulation tactic they feel only they can use. Its why its discouraged in men early on from women, and also guys. For genuine emotions, its not societally acceptable for most situations its no problem for a woman to cry about. Few exceptions are major losses, loyal pets, close family, destruction of a house, etc. And even then, not a full breakdown like women might do.