Whew.
. . .but when you luck out and land one (like mine) who is "broken-in" and treats you and the children like gold, you don't go tossing him back, sticking a knife in him, and twisting it every chance you get just to be a bitch.
What if he treats you and your children (his also, presumably) merely like silver?
If the husband isn't giving you a legitimate reason to grab up the kids and run for it and if he treats you well and with respect. . .
Who gets to make that judgement call, and does it override the lifetime commitment vowed during marriage?
I'll tell you who gets to make that judgement call...THE WIFE HERSELF...Not her multitudes of divorced or disgruntled girlfriends with too much time and advice on their hands. I saw the pain my brother went through when he married a "debutante commitee" instead of a wife, so I KNOW that aspect all too well!
Every woman has a heart and a brain. We may not let the brain have a say as often as we do the heart, but when BOTH know a good thing, outsiders need to butt out and leave things alone. Good men aren't growing on trees. You have to hunt to find them and have the sense to know when you missed the target BEFORE he is your spouse.