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Tell me about it. My wife laughs at these types of women who think that they can find "love on a list". Inevitably they seem to just keep asking questions until they finally hear an excuse to "reject before being rejected", as well as getting to go be the center of attention to their remaining friends when they whine about how bad their last date was.

What I find most telling about this woman is that even though she drops what seems like several dozen hints in this short column to insure the reader knows she travels amongst the veddy veddy important Manhattan media circles - a subculture which is quite sizable - she's forced to rely on blind dates for any hope whatsoever of finding a partner. She's literally exhausted her entire Rolodex, except to ask for referrals.

I mean, I've gone on two blind dates in my life, the first time because I didn't know any better, and the second time because I apparently needed to learn firsthand the old adage, "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." In any case, I figured it out by age 20.

"What I find most telling about this woman is that even though she drops what seems like several dozen hints in this short column to insure the reader knows she travels amongst the veddy veddy important Manhattan media circles - a subculture which is quite sizable - she's forced to rely on blind dates for any hope whatsoever of finding a partner. She's literally exhausted her entire Rolodex, except to ask for referrals."

That's a good point. The whole "blind date" social addiction is pretty foreign to me. Who has time for such random nonsense? I mean, if you aren't meeting interesting people at your job, or at one of your favorite social causes, or associated with one of your hobbies/sports/past-times or travels, then who are you really kidding?

What she's really doing is abusing her casual, social, and professional acquaintences. She's getting them to set her up with people who don't know her, her reputation, or her foibles. In contrast, whatever people whom she is in contact with in her own daily life, be they casual, professional, or social friends, all know better than to date her or even spend non-mandatory time with her. It's Friday night and her friends aren't asking her out?! She's got a free night to waste on yet another blind date, why, exactly?! Her friends haven't planned anything with her, that's why.

And who do they set her up with? New guys fresh off of the boat from Israel, not people whom they've established long-term friendships with in NYC, that's who. In other words, they throw meaningless people at her to busy up her "free" nights rather either invite her to be with them or even warrant risking setting her up with someone whom they care about. After all, they *know* her.

The big clue for her is that the people she meet aren't going out with her. The minor clue for her is that they are quite willing to set her up with people whom they barely know themselves.

What's probably happening in liberal social circles is that their personal relationships have grown rather immature over time. Wasting time on endless blind dates is indicative of such.