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The Psychology of Sexual Arousal
Capitalism Magazine ^ | December 18, 2003 | Michael J. Hurd

Posted on 12/18/2003 12:43:59 PM PST by presidio9

Q: Why do men seem to enjoy viewing women naked (e.g., in photos, real life, etc.) much more than women seem to enjoy looking at naked men? It seems men are much more "turned on" romantically/sexually by the visual aspects of the opposite sex, than the other way around. Do you agree? And what accounts for this?

A: I have not done and do not intend to do a scientific study on the subject. However, I can share with you my fifteen years of experience talking to people about all kinds of personal matters, including sex. It is my experience that a general trend exists in which men are much more likely to be aroused by the visual and the physical than are women. However, I also see loads of evidence that men are just as capable of responding to values as well--intelligence, shared interests, sense of humor, sense of life, etc.--as opposed to the exclusively physical.

It appears that the most fulfilling sexual response, for both men and women, is inevitably a merging of the two: values and physical attributes. For whatever reason, many men get more caught up in repressing the one while many women become more preoccupied with repressing the other. It's interesting to note that any attempt to shut out either one--physical or values--whether by a man or a woman, results in some degree of romantic unhappiness. For both men and women, sex without love is as meaningless as love without sex is phony.

Although physiological factors can be involved, since there are obvious differences between men and women physically, I don't assume it's the primary explanation for this observed difference. I don't vote either "nature" or "nurture" as an explanation. Instead, I'm interested in why certain individuals end up choosing to value some attributes over others, and what the consequences of those value choices are.

My experience teaches that both men and women can make errors (most certainly do in romance); and both men and women can make choices that serve their interests and bring sustained happiness. In the area of romance, both men and women have a lot to learn when it comes to integrating their sexuality.


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1 posted on 12/18/2003 12:44:01 PM PST by presidio9
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To: presidio9
My experience teaches that both men and women can make errors

Well now, thanks for THAT little bit of info...

2 posted on 12/18/2003 12:45:57 PM PST by Izzy Dunne (Hello, I'm a TAGLINE virus. Please help me spread by copying me into YOUR tag line.)
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To: presidio9
"Q: Why do men seem to enjoy viewing women naked (e.g., in photos, real life, etc.) much more than women seem to enjoy looking at naked men?"

Probably because they're more honest. :^)

3 posted on 12/18/2003 12:46:54 PM PST by TheCrusader
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To: presidio9
"...It seems men are much more "turned on" romantically/sexually by the visual aspects of the opposite sex"

That's true, but this Wall Street rally is doing it for me this afternoon!

4 posted on 12/18/2003 12:47:34 PM PST by theDentist (This Tagline for Rent. Contact theDentist for further details....)
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To: presidio9
Men are visual FIRST then emotional second. Women are emotional first. Anyone with a brain knows this. There's nothing wrong with this. Somewhere in a really good relationship the two mix. Personally I look as attractive as possible for my boyfriend, and he is as in tune to my emotions as he can.
5 posted on 12/18/2003 12:48:07 PM PST by cyborg
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To: presidio9
I know what sexual arousal is. I also know the permanent cure:


6 posted on 12/18/2003 12:48:38 PM PST by Callahan
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To: presidio9
Women need a reason to have sex....men just need a venue.
7 posted on 12/18/2003 12:49:01 PM PST by TurtleTrap
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To: Callahan
There not enough botox in the world to help that sourpus.
8 posted on 12/18/2003 12:49:22 PM PST by cyborg
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To: presidio9
I'd thought it was accepted that most men get turned on by what they see, and most women by what they hear.
9 posted on 12/18/2003 12:50:15 PM PST by squidly (Although prepared for martyrdom, I prefer that it be postponed.)
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To: Callahan
Damn you.
10 posted on 12/18/2003 12:50:42 PM PST by flashbunny (The constitution doesn't protect only the things you approve of.)
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To: presidio9
Men are from Mars...Women are from Venus 101
11 posted on 12/18/2003 12:50:55 PM PST by PaulaB (If conservatives won't fight for what is right ...who will? Yes there is absolute truth!!!!!!)
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To: theDentist
Britney Speers naked, or Dow Jones up....I take Britney!
12 posted on 12/18/2003 12:54:25 PM PST by philosofy123
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To: Izzy Dunne
You can dance with me and think about someone else.
13 posted on 12/18/2003 12:55:17 PM PST by Lee Heggy (When truth and logic fail high explosives are applicable.)
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To: presidio9
Why do men seem to enjoy viewing women naked (e.g., in photos, real life, etc.) much more than women seem to enjoy looking at naked men?

Simple. Women's bodies are just much more beautiful and interesting to look at! Now will someone in the government give me $60,000 so I can run my own study to prove this assertion? Please? Pretty please?? ; )

14 posted on 12/18/2003 12:55:36 PM PST by Prime Choice (Leftist opinions may be free, but I still feel like I'm getting ripped off every time I receive one.)
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To: Callahan
That one made me laugh out loud :-)
15 posted on 12/18/2003 12:56:05 PM PST by T'wit
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To: presidio9
My experience teaches that both men and women can make errors (most certainly do in romance)

You just had to watch the last episode of Average Joe to prove this one...

16 posted on 12/18/2003 12:56:36 PM PST by Always Right
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To: Callahan
Must...counter...the...evil...visage! Urrrggggg...must...find antidote!

Oof. All better now.

17 posted on 12/18/2003 12:58:26 PM PST by Prime Choice (Leftist opinions may be free, but I still feel like I'm getting ripped off every time I receive one.)
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To: Callahan
Ewwww. Thanks for ruining my day. She is fugly!
18 posted on 12/18/2003 12:59:16 PM PST by MotleyGirl70
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To: Callahan
I know what sexual arousal is. I also know the permanent cure:

I know what causes permanent sexual arousal.


19 posted on 12/18/2003 1:20:14 PM PST by Arrowhead1952 (Laura Ingraham and Ann Coulter are living proof that not all blonds are dumb.)
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To: Arrowhead1952
Republican "Babe of the Week"
20 posted on 12/18/2003 1:30:10 PM PST by presidio9 (protectionism is a false god)
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To: Callahan
Argh! You'll have to answer to my wife when I fail to perform.
21 posted on 12/18/2003 1:30:50 PM PST by Scott Mahrle
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To: Callahan
You can't just post something like that here without a several post warning. Some of us eat lunch.
22 posted on 12/18/2003 1:36:03 PM PST by highlander_UW
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To: presidio9
Great site. Republican women are so beautiful.
23 posted on 12/18/2003 1:36:35 PM PST by Arrowhead1952 (Laura Ingraham and Ann Coulter are living proof that not all blonds are dumb.)
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To: All
I think Dr. Hurd should get busy building up his client base and stop writing "Oprah" dialogue. Can you imagine this guy trying to advise you on anything more serious than a fallen souffle disaster?
24 posted on 12/18/2003 1:44:25 PM PST by MAGEE
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To: presidio9
BUMP
25 posted on 12/18/2003 1:45:07 PM PST by GrandMoM ("Without prayer, the hand of GOD stops, BUT, with prayer the hand of GOD moves !!!)
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To: TurtleTrap
"Human sexuality, especially male sexuality, is polymorphous, or utterly wild (far more so than animal sexuality). Men have had sex with women and with men; with little girls and young boys; with a single partner and in large groups; with total strangers and immediate family members; and with a variety of domesticated animals. They have achieved orgasm with inanimate objects such as leather, shoes, and other pieces of clothing, through urinating and defecating on each other (interested readers can see a photograph of the former at select art museums exhibiting the works of the photographer Robert Mapplethorpe); by dressing in women's garments; by watching other human beings being tortured; by fondling children of either sex; by listening to a woman's disembodied voice (e.g., “phone sex”); and, of course, by looking at pictures of bodies or parts of bodies. There is little, animate or inanimate, that has not excited some men to orgasm. Of course, not all of these practices have been condoned by societies — parent-child incest and seducing another's man's wife have rarely been countenanced — but many have, and all illustrate what the unchanneled, or in Freudian terms, the “un-sublimated,” sex drive can lead to." --Dennis Prager, Why Judaism Rejected Homosexuality
26 posted on 12/18/2003 1:47:16 PM PST by onedoug
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To: philosofy123
Dow Up and I can afford Britney
27 posted on 12/18/2003 1:47:20 PM PST by theDentist (This Tagline for Rent. Contact theDentist for further details....)
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To: presidio9
Here I was looking forward to analysing the analyzers, but this story said nothin'!
28 posted on 12/18/2003 1:47:37 PM PST by sit-rep
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To: presidio9
And what accounts for this?


29 posted on 12/18/2003 1:48:35 PM PST by unixfox (Close the borders, problems solved!)
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To: presidio9
and both men and women can make choices that serve their interests and bring sustained happiness.

Sustained happiness for men? I think it's no nagging or guilt trips, letting him buy whatever he wants with no hassling, and lots and lots of hummers.

I could be wrong, though....

30 posted on 12/18/2003 1:48:54 PM PST by Lizavetta (Savage is right. Extreme liberalness is a mental disorder.)
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To: All
And another thought: How old is this guy? He looks like hs hasn't yet had sex himself or with himself.
31 posted on 12/18/2003 1:51:52 PM PST by MAGEE
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To: Arrowhead1952
Great site. Republican women are so beautiful.

And so very rare...

32 posted on 12/18/2003 1:51:55 PM PST by Mr. Jeeves
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To: TheCrusader
Probably because they're more honest.

Personally, I think it's because women are just naturally more esthetically pleasing.

'Course, I could be biased.

Shalom.

33 posted on 12/18/2003 1:54:12 PM PST by ArGee (Scientific reasoning makes it easier to support gross immorality.)
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To: unixfox
LOL!!
34 posted on 12/18/2003 1:55:54 PM PST by sit-rep
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To: Prime Choice
Oof. All better now.

You know that a little bit of evil can counter a whole lot of good.

That said, it will take at least 2 Anns to counter a Hillary.

Especially that Hillary.

Shalom.

35 posted on 12/18/2003 1:56:06 PM PST by ArGee (Scientific reasoning makes it easier to support gross immorality.)
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To: Lizavetta
I like the way you think.
36 posted on 12/18/2003 1:56:56 PM PST by Dementon (I hear the voices in my head, I swear to God it sounds like they're snoring...)
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To: unixfox
now imagine the pic above combined with the multi button machine as shown and there is your future Ms. President.....LOL

37 posted on 12/18/2003 1:57:35 PM PST by PaulaB (If Hillary ever gets there..I'm leaving....RPKB-Republican Girls KICK Butt!!!!!!!)
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To: Lizavetta
...cough...
38 posted on 12/18/2003 2:02:06 PM PST by sit-rep
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To: ArGee
That said, it will take at least 2 Anns to counter a Hillary.

Two Anns, huh? You'll have to twist my arm. ow. Okay. And I'll throw in some extras for good measure.

There. I'm feeling MUCH better now. : )

39 posted on 12/18/2003 2:02:46 PM PST by Prime Choice (Leftist opinions may be free, but I still feel like I'm getting ripped off every time I receive one.)
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To: Mr. Jeeves
Great site. Republican women are so beautiful.

And so very rare...

And so very kinky!

(Oops...that was the part I was supposed to think and not say.)

40 posted on 12/18/2003 2:04:08 PM PST by Prime Choice (Leftist opinions may be free, but I still feel like I'm getting ripped off every time I receive one.)
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To: unixfox; harpseal; Chapita; Squantos; wardaddy; Travis McGee
Ya'll check this one out....

...Link...

41 posted on 12/18/2003 2:12:52 PM PST by sit-rep
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To: unixfox
That pic is great. I wonder what (if anything) those contraptions actually do ...
42 posted on 12/18/2003 2:21:30 PM PST by spodefly (This is my tagline. There are many like it, but this one is mine.)
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To: presidio9
I think if men's naughty bits were more, shall we say, aesthetically pleasing to the eye, I'd want to look at them more.

Shirtless is always good.
43 posted on 12/18/2003 2:23:56 PM PST by stands2reason
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To: Prime Choice
Urrrggggg...must...find antidote!


44 posted on 12/18/2003 2:27:49 PM PST by ErnBatavia (Some days you're the windshield; some days you're the bug)
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To: stands2reason

Shirtless is always good.

Be careful what you wish for...

45 posted on 12/18/2003 2:29:48 PM PST by presidio9 (protectionism is a false god)
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To: Prime Choice
Women's bodies are just much more beautiful and interesting to look at!

Mmmm, hmmm...


46 posted on 12/18/2003 2:30:58 PM PST by stands2reason
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To: presidio9
No one can explain why, but men look for a hottie and if she happens to have charm and brains too, that's a plus.

Women look for commitment and security and if he happens to look decent, that's a plus.

'Tis the mystical way of the universe.

47 posted on 12/18/2003 2:31:19 PM PST by Sender (“We have placed them in a quagmire from which they can never emerge except dead” -Baghdad Bob)
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To: presidio9
great link!
48 posted on 12/18/2003 2:31:44 PM PST by wardaddy ("either the arabs are at your throat, or at your feet")
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To: Lizavetta
Sustained happiness for men? I think it's no nagging or guilt trips, letting him buy whatever he wants with no hassling, and lots and lots of hummers.

Two out of three ain't bad....(I'm really tight with money!)

49 posted on 12/18/2003 2:33:04 PM PST by stands2reason
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To: sit-rep
Now I know why the toggle is up when the machine is turned on!
50 posted on 12/18/2003 2:33:21 PM PST by Chapita
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