[bellas_sister]

You need to relax...

I don't think anyone of us can condemn anyone to hell. Isn't that in the hands of God?

If you feel so strong, shouldn't you pray for him?

[RPTMS]

Perhaps I was wrong to say he should go to Hell. But our society needs to stop being so tolerant of adultery. The breakup of the family is the one of the worst things that has happened to Western civilization in the last century. It would be one thing if he had a one night stand or an affair with his mistress. He could repent and be forgiven. By divorcing his wife and remarrying while she is still alive, he is living in sin. Now I haven't followed this story very closely, but it seems to me that he has no intention of ending his relationship with his mistress. Most of us feel remorse when we have sinned. As far as I can tell, he doesn't care. Who says I don't pray for him? I almost always make a special intention for the conversion of sinners when I pray. But I am sick and tired of people taking marriage lightly. Where is the outrage?

[shrinkermd]

"I don't think anyone of us can condemn anyone to hell. Isn't that in the hands of God?

I can't remember who said it but, "..the last refuge of despair for a man is another womans arms.." The point is that many men who cannot make the break from a relationship they don't want to be in, find another woman. In a way this deflects the wife's rage towards the "other woman" and also give themselves a reason for leaving. Not an excuse, but really what people do in real life without really understanding what they are doing and why.

In addition, sometimes people marry for the wrong reasons or when they are so immature and insecure they really slip into a relationship with little or no thought as to why and to whom they are marrying. In times past, most died before 50, but now we live much longer; hence, marriages sometimes end when life used to end.