Neil seems to have married a woman who anticipated reat things. She both depended on and tried to dominate him at the same time. This an onerous burden in a marriage and it failed.
In passing I note that contrary to public belief success including social class can be predicted only one quarter of the time by family of origin determinations. Quite surprisingly 75% of the variability is variability within the family based, no doubt, on intelligence and temperament considerations that are basically a throw of the genetic dice. My guess is that Neil was seriously learning disabled as a child and only recently has become to overcome his deep seated feeling of insecurity and inferiority. Must be tough to be in a family with so many high functioning successes.