Where's the Feminism for Older Women?

Philly.com ^ | 5/11/04 | Rosemary C. McDonough

[Rytwyng]

there was just an aura of "all the women are dumb/asinine" while men apparently get a free pass and are not responsible at all for their sad stories.

Perhaps we do go a little overboard, but if so, we're overreacting to a culture where nearly all relationship problems are blamed on men. Christian books, radio, and sermons largely mirror the secular attitude on this -- it's all about the men needing to repent, the women are very rarely criticized for anything.

Yet legions of good men have learned the hard way that this just isn't true. Quite the reverse, in many cases. Here in Lost Angeles, at least, the women are, as a group, just horrible towards men, and the nicer a man is, the worse they'll hurt him.

They make choices, too

Ah, but -- speaking from experience -- even the guys who make righteous choices, still get hit hard with this stuff. Being honorable, "equally yoked", and chaste in one's dating/courting, is no protection.

[the OlLine Rebel]

Yes, I guess I can see it as a reactionary thing. I just hope it doesn't go overboard all over. The attitude about women, I mean. Like ancient attitudes that they're the cause of all problems, etc. BS.

Well, I'd like to be more optimistic, but frankly I'm very cynical now, about every1. Even those who seem geeky-sweet are "living in sin", etc. I'm shocked to meet people who seem like they could do no wrong - yet there they are.

The pickings are slim now, but OTOH, if people could be led back to the proper attitude and see the error of their ways, there could be more. Like I said, many are good at heart w/all their faults, just that they do some things wrong.

[Rytwyng]

Even those who seem geeky-sweet are "living in sin", etc. I'm shocked to meet people who seem like they could do no wrong - yet there they are.

Agree completely. I could give you a list of people I know, whom I once considered trusted Christian friends and/or leaders, but who have eventually shown themselves to be scoundrels -- sexually, financially, or otherwise. The majority were women but the men on the list were pretty awful too.