However, if they refuse to be saved and changed then you'd rather they die now before they hurt anyone else. Is this also correct?
That's kind of the definition of God's love (and of love the sinner hate the sin). God loves us and wants the best for us but if we refuse to receive it then He will put us into situations where we will be apt to call on Him. (Diseases like AIDS maybe for the 'homosexual'). And unfortunately many times He's forced to remove us before we hurt others. It pains Him to send them to hell but sending one to hell is far better than sending that one and the 100's of others that he led dragged into hell with him.
My personal desire is that homosexuals will keep their lifestyles as advertised when they argued before the Supreme Court to overturn the sodomy laws -- PRIVATE!
As far as scripture goes, God will send all unreprentant sinners to hell. Homosexuality is a sin. Those who practice it need to repent or face God's judgement.
Personally, I do not "love" the sinner -- as in feel an emotional affection for -- and hate the sin. My emotional response is more one of resentment. I resent the fact that gays want to force everyone else (including BOY SCOUTS for gosh sakes) to approve of their deviant lifestyle through force of government and social pressure. I resent GLSEN for their efforts to pander this crap to school children. I resent LAMBDA Legal for abusing the court system. I have no emotional affection for these people. If they were to change their ways, I would work to forgive them. That's all that's required of me from a scriptural perspective. I stand ready to forgive if they turn from their wicked ways.
That's what I was saying.
I did love my niece -- as in have an emotional affection for -- who was trapped in the gay lifestyle. I loved her long before, and later, in spite of, her deviant lifestyle. I loved her before and in spite of her dishonesty and thievery too. I did not approve of her behavior. She will have to answer to God for that. But I did love her entirely in the human sense. My love for her in the godly sense should have been greater. Maybe then I would have worked harder at helping her out of her destructive lifestyle before it was too late.