Posted on 06/04/2004 5:41:12 PM PDT by ambrose
Wedding bells ring in Detroit suburb where gay life thrives
By SARAH KARUSH
The Associated Press
6/4/2004, 4:10 p.m. ET
FERNDALE, Mich. (AP) - Driving past Mom and Pop businesses along an American flag-lined boulevard, a first-time visitor might not see much to distinguish this Detroit suburb from any small Midwestern town.
But look around - at the rainbow stickers on shop doors, a church sign exhorting people to "celebrate pride," the "Hate-Free Zone" advertised from a basement window - and it's not hard to see why it is in Ferndale that some 15 Michigan couples are joining the legions of gay newlyweds on Saturday.
In just two short decades, Ferndale has gone from being a struggling, half-forgotten working-class town to a vibrant, hip city and a center for metropolitan Detroit's gay community.
Mayor Robert Porter and Rev. Mark Bidwell, pastor of Metropolitan Community Church, will perform the marriage ceremonies outside City Hall on Saturday. However, no marriage licenses will be issued because only the county can issue them. Oakland County has previously rebuffed same-sex couples who sought marriage licenses.
"We want to make sure others see that we're not freaks of nature, we're just normal," said Northville resident Kelly Rogers, 38, who will marry her partner, Melody, in Saturday's symbolic ceremony. "We pay taxes. We have a daughter. We do the whole soccer mom thing."
Porter's participation in the weddings, which are part of the Motor City Pride festival, is the latest sign of how this city of 22,000 has gone out of its way to welcome gays and lesbians.
"I believe in the right of someone who loves someone to make a commitment to that person," Porter said.
"Marriage in this country unfortunately fails 60 percent of time," he added. "When that happens, people have the aid of law and the courts and so forth to make sure someone isn't mistreated. The gay community doesn't have that."
Ferndale got its reputation as a gay Mecca after people in Detroit's Palmer Park neighborhood, once considered the anchor of southeast Michigan's gay community, started moving out to avoid crime and poor city services in the mid 1980s, said Craig Covey, Ferndale's mayor pro tem and the director of the Midwest AIDS Prevention Project.
Former residents scattered throughout the area, but a handful of people - including Covey - were drawn to the old, inexpensive homes of Ferndale.
"Ferndale was a blank canvas," he said. "Downtown was empty."
Today, Nine Mile Road is full of restaurants, bars and bookstores, many of them gay-owned.
Soon after Covey arrived, Ferndale's small gay population began organizing, he said, and by the early 1990s, the Affirmations community center and the predominantly gay Metropolitan Community Church had taken up residence in town.
Some longtime residents of the blue-collar town were wary.
"People were a little afraid - apprehensive - at first," said Jackie Leggio, a waitress at Como's, an Italian restaurant and Ferndale fixture. Now, that fear is gone, she said.
"Straight customers and gay customers have become the best of friends," agreed owner Sicilia Grego, who opened Como's with her husband 43 years ago. The restaurant is a sponsor of this weekend's festival and is hosting several of the events.
Grego credits the gay community for Ferndale's revival and the meteoric rise of property values.
"They're meticulous," she said of Ferndale's gay residents. "They take pride in their houses."
Bidwell, the minister, concedes that not all his Ferndale neighbors welcomed him and his partner with open arms. But, he says, the couple's presence has helped to change attitudes.
"They have seen me take my garbage out every Thursday night for 13 years," he said. "They have seen that I am just like every other person that they know."
In recent years, Ferndale's leaders have actively fostered the town's reputation as a gay-friendly place, said Jeffrey Montgomery, executive director of the Triangle Foundation. The Detroit-based advocacy group, which has been producing Motor City Pride for the past four years, has found an eager host in the town, he said.
Still, southeast Michigan's gay community remains very spread out, and it would be wrong to think of Ferndale as the region's sole gay center, Montgomery said.
He said gays in Michigan have always been relatively scattered, in part because they were historically more closeted than elsewhere in the country. "A lot of the gay people weren't comfortable living in something known as a gay neighborhood," Montgomery said.
Today, there are strong pockets of gay life around the region, he said.
"If one were to say, `Ferndale sure is the big gay capital of Michigan,' you would immediately hear from gay people that live in Mount Clemens or Birmingham or Brighton or Saline or any number of places," Montgomery said.
I wonder what your Moooslims think about this?
Heaven forbid that nature should have such freaks.
I always suspected that Barth Gimble and Jerry Hubbard were a little "too close" if you know what I mean...and I think you do.
And don't even get me started on Happy Kine
"They're meticulous," she said of Ferndale's gay residents. "They take pride in their houses."
LOL, that is true though, gays’ moving into a dilapidated neighborhood is a good thing because if you get enough in the home values start to go up.
Not a pro or anti gay statement, just a fact of life.
You're right.
not really because then the properties become unsellable to families. No mother and father wants to live next to a potential child molester, nor do they want that type of sexual example next to their home.
It is a short lived boost. I even had a lawyer friend of mine told by a homosexual seller of a duplex that he wanted to sell to someone "compatable with his lifestyle." Homosexuals in a family neighborhood is a bad thing.
"We want to make sure others see that we're not freaks of nature, we're just normal," said Northville resident Kelly Rogers, 38, who will marry her partner, Melody, in Saturday's symbolic ceremony. "We pay taxes. We have a daughter. We do the whole soccer mom thing."
This is part of the effort to redefine the family as not whatever it is by tradition. Want to be the author of this AP article is herself a lesbian. This girl has ONE mother and her mother has a female recreational sex partner. This is not a family.
Hmmmm - this'll teach me to do a search before I post an article!!!
Ferndale may be the "gay mecca" but the happy people coming to get hitched are from all over Michigan.
If you live in Michigan and haven't signed a petition defining marriage as between a man & woman, the deadline is less than 30 days away!
One local paper reported the certificates will bear the words "in holy matrimony." Mayor Porter to another local paper, "The connotation of marriage, just everyone is so used to it being religious, and having to do with a man and a woman..."
Thanks LJ for posting this article and the WDIV poll... Ferndale, MI is is in the running to steal the title, "City of Evil" from Ithica, NY.
Stay East of US-23......
I guess Ithaca, Madison and Ferndale are "sister cities of evil".
Homosexuals like to live where there are many others of their ilk. Since they are wildly promiscuous, they need a pool of ... ahem.
There aren't any Muslims in Ferdale. Gotta go south of Detroit for that.
The petitions for declaring anypart of a fetus outside of the womb a person, were certified today.
The petitions for declaring marriage in Michigan only between a man and a woman need over 350,000 more signatures by July.
I have received my invitation to the Triangle Foundations's Celebration of Homosexual Marriage, but I will not be attending.
What a great place to live! So much diversity..Inner city utopia, gang understanding and h'mos in love. Why arent people flocking to live there?
Don't believe everything you read... Ferndale has more "for sale" signs than rainbow flags.
The most prominent downtown "gay" business... Just 4 Us was sold to a straight couple!
Detwat, multi-cultural paradise/city of the future or the best case for thermonuclear purification/urban renewal ever? The only denizens multiplying are muslims and welfare clients or do I repeat myself?
Not attending one of Mr. Montgomery's events... that could be considered a "hate crime".
350,000 signatures needed is a challenge. Let's hope the "mass wedding" in Ferndale wakes a few hundred thousand people up.
Where do I go to sign the michigan petition?.
"Homosexuals in a family neighborhood is a bad thing."
They generally buy homes in dilapidated neighborhoods, which your typical up and coming family is not interested in.
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