I said nothing. My ex filed first, and gave me sole custody of the kids. If I had spilled my guts, he would have lost visitation and his security clearance.
Of course there were all the lies he told to the woman who is now married to him. Being a mandatory reporter as a schoolteacher, she called CPS on me. They cleared me and suggested that I retain legal counsel, which I can't afford. Soon after, someone who used to work with my ex at Northrop Grumman emailed me about the fact that my ex implied that he and I were having an affair which broke up his happy home. I fought for 6 long years to get away from him.
I know all about lies, and all about closet deviants.
I'm not a closet deviant.
I'm a very, very public one.
Y'see.