[FourPeas]

You know, I think that's part of the healing process -- a grieving over what's been lost and what shouldn't have been. I've been there, too. When something hits especially close to home, I think it's easy for those of us who haven't been "there" to not comprehend the full extent of the impact.

That sounds much more preachy than I'd like, but I can't seem to reword it so it makes sense. Please take it in the spirit offered: as a comment from someone who is currently trying to make sense of something she wish hadn't been.

[cyborg]

okay fair enough...I've been there too and wouldn't want her to waste her life.