You realize of course that the reason for the activism by the queer community to get marriage recognition is to take advantage of various Federal benefits. You eliminate the benefits and the issue disappears. The courts have stripped all state laws that reflect the wishes of the public regarding their idea of moral or reasonable conduct. Most of the problems could be taken care of by statute restricting the Federal courts from injecting themselves into state laws based on marriage or state moral issues based on state standards of behavior.
Benefits is part of it but these gays would want gay marriage even if benefits didn't enter into it. It's about control. They are more interested in controlling and changing the landscape so they look less queer in public so they feel better about their deviant behavior. That's what its about.
But I wonder about federal benefits. Take income tax filing. Let's say a gay couple living in MS goes to MA and gets married. They then go back to MS and file a federal income tax form and file it as married even though MS doesn't recognize gay marriage? I'm having trouble keeping up with this.