Why can't you have this level of passion towards getting rid of coruption in government, like getting rid of the IRS or other parts government that are directly invasive and are a danger to us and our freedoms instead of focusing on lesser matters like homosexuality.
Using your logic, if everyone pooled their resources and put forth an effort to eliminate the IRS, it would bear fruitage. Well, you are wrong.
Do you know why? Because standing in the way of any populist movement to kill the IRS would be an untold number of activist judges who have spent their entire careers deciding that the will of the people doesn't mean jack if it doesn't pass muster with the black-robed people in the high chairs.
Nobody likes to mess with the Constitution. That's why it's only been amended 27 times in the 228 year history of this republic. But when something as personal to the individuals who make this nation as the legal definition of the family unit is subject to change by judicial fiat, all measures must be considered.
You seem to be of the opinion that the power of the people that would be required to save the nuclear family from activist judges would sap future efforts closer to your heart. I disagree -- I think if marriage is "saved," people will like the way they feel after flexing their muscles, and move on to another target.
Besides, I would venture to guess that most of -- if not all -- of the people pissing and moaning about a proposed marriage definition amendment aren't aware that last Amendment was ratified in 1992 -- during the Clinton Administration! Are we to believe that a Congressional salary Amendment passed in the 18th Century and not enshrined until the end of the 20th was disruptive of the rest of the legislative and judicial processes?