Yeah, I've got a brother AND my mother who voted for Kerry so I AM sensitive to how we should 'react' now BUT...
I have great difficulty being "nice" to people that voted for the candidate endorsed by Usama Bin Laden.
I've got a mother, step-father, brother, two grandmothers, one grandfather, and a bunch of other relatives and friends who voted for that candidate too.
We don't need to be "nice" regarding what we believe. When it comes to our beliefs, being "nice", as far as Dems are concerned, means being silent.
The last thing we need to do is be silent. We need to bring Democrats back to the bargaining table. As is the case when dealing with any set of aggressors, the only way we will bring Democrats to the table is to be strong, yet in a manner that acknowledges the fact that we will work with them if they acknowledge the fact that they need to work with us first.