I agree with your take of spiderman 2 and I hope for once it breaks the ridgid formal rule that a hero can't have a girl-friend.
By the way, I thought XMen 2 was also superior in droves to X 1, especially at the end when the telepath sacrifices her-self to save her friends....the glowing birdlike image in the lake in the closing scenes was a forshadowing I'm told for the rise of the PHoenix!
Watch them back-to-back as a double feature -- it's really one movie in two parts. Part one exists almost entirely to set up part two.