I love people that spit out just move. Here's where I've lived: Massachusetts, Vermont, North Carolina, Alabama, Virginia, Germany (3-years), California, and Kentucky. That's what 8 years of active duty and 3 years working at Procter and Gamble do to you. My entire extended family (we're talking over 50 people) live in Massachusetts. Is it strange of me and my wife to want to live close to family? Do you think that has a positive effect on my future son?
I own my own business with a partner. We put our heart and soles into the company ans also plenty of money. We're established in Massachusetts. My wife had a job where she worked 3 weeks in a row, then had a month or two off. It was a consulting position. Fairly good situation to have kids. Her company went under. We have a mortgage. We needed her income. Does that make us evil? We both drive cars over 6 years old, bought used.
We're going to do what we can to make things work. a Live-in is better than day care 5 days a week. My son will be around his grand parents, aunts, uncles, and cousins all the time. We all help each other out. I'm sorry, but moving to South Dakota or Mississippi is not a solution for us. Get real.
You should strongly consider more reasonably priced real estate beyond Worcester or in New Hampshire. Sacrificing family size for high priced real estate simply isn't worth it.