"Men simply got women into the workforce on their terms, and got to pay for abortions and write checks for child support instead of taking real responsibility for the children they produce. It's a great deal for men, but it still stinks for women. We have "choice," but if we decide to have the children, we only have lousy choices - quit working and give up our rewarding careers, or have our kids raised by strangers."
Whoa, whoa, whoa, hold on, there, Ms. Steinem. You make it sound like feminism was some victory for men. Most men pre-feminism, I know, would have PREFERRED their kids to be raised by a parent--the wife--at home. And most men TODAY would probably prefer a parent stay home, if we could get them to admit it for fear of being strung up by hordes of hairy-legged NOW hags. Seventy-five percent of married men say that, in choosing a wife, they specifically look for someone who would be a good mother.
The divorce rate tends to be higher in those countries where women are most apt to work at paid jobs. You think this is because MEN want women to work and women don't? But...but I thought feminism was about WOMEN wanting to be able to have a career! You already admit that you hate the idea you might have to "quit working and give up [y]our rewarding career..."
So, if you feel that way, why is your husband about to get a job? Because you want more income as a family. You CHOOSE that over having a stay-at-home parent there. Most women I know would be furious about their husband staying at home, because they're the ones that should 'get to,' and I would bet money that you have agitated for him getting that job.
No, it is WOMEN who perpetuate the current system by preferring freedom and income over commitment and childcare! Now, career women just want someone else to pay for it, so y'all can make that choice without any repercussions--because flextime and telecommuting, and job-sharing and all-day schooling for kids COST MONEY. Money you don't want to spend YOURSELF, but ON yourself.
Screw that. Pay your own freight. I shouldn't have to subsidize your industry OR your fecundity.
it is particularly attractive to bull-dyke lesbians because of the selection effect -- non-bull-dyke lesbians who join are stupid and pliant, just what bull-dyke lesbians are looking for.
the sad truth for feminists is that real women aren't held back by men very effectively and end up with all the real power in a relationship, and more practically, all the money (my wife has given me permission to make this post).