Ask him if he has any idea of how much the federal government and the state governments give in "Cash and Noncash Benefits for Persons With Limited Income". Persons with limited incomes are the "poor".
See if he comes anywhere near the $437 billion (year 2000).
When you ask him, have in your pocket Table No. 540. Cash and Noncash Benefits for Persons With Limited Income:
1999 and 2000 from the Statistical Abstract of the United States, put out by the Census Bureau. You can find it at:
http://www.census.gov/prod/2004pubs/03statab/socinsur.pdf
Then ask him how much charities give to the poor. Have in your pocket a copy of Table No. 581 (scroll down on the linked page) Private Philanthropy Funds by Source and Allocation: 1990 to 2002 and show him how much of the over $200 billion in charitable contributions go the the poor.
Then tell him to STFU.
Is that Latin for "Silence is Golden"?