Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! YOU ARE SO RIGHT. Music is one of the most powerful tools of ministry, and this blue-haired my-way-or-the-highway attitude is one of my biggest pet peeves.
Years ago, at a concert by a Christian performer, may have been David Meece, he was playing and talking about playing in front of a group of blue hairs. He played some upbeat tune and they were complaining about it not being Christian. So then he went into this long, drawn out intor to a song which sounded beautiful, free-flowing and vaguely familiar. He played for about 5 minutes as he told the story. He said that the ladies siad, "Yes, not that's Christian music." He said, OK, let's sing along with it and proceeded to play the actual song. M-I-C-K-E-Y M-O-U-S-E.
Priceless.