yeah....
I only had to drill with Rebecca one time during practice, but considering I was much bigger at the time (I was the 215 LB class, she was the 103 LB), she held her own perfectly well.
It is up to the coaches to make sure the kids know it is a competition, because in just a few years, they will be competing with girls for jobs, scholarships and everything else. Gotta start somewhere, but you just cant look across the mat and see a girl. You need to see the girl as another competitor. It probably sounds too simple, but for me, it is really easy.
I am OK with girls competing on wrestling teams, if they like. In fact, this should be the trend. No all-girl wrestling teams, just a WRESTLING team. Similarly, no girls tennis, soccer, cross-country, track, golf, football, volleyball, etc. etc. Just play the sport. If you are good enough, try out for the team. If you don't make it, play JV or recreationally. The whole Title IX stuff goes away immediately. This is what (many) women say they want--equality. Let 'em have it, and see how they react.