The Sin of Divorce

Renew America ^ | 01/04/2005 | Adam Graham

[ShadowDancer]

Starting a bon fire.

[notigar]

the husband's cool if he was cheated on. Then, happy hunting.

[Just another Joe]

Do you really think it's possible for two people who are emotionally and physically attracted to one another and who are contemplating spending the rest of their lives together to live in the same house together and not have sex?

It can be done. I'm living proof.
While in today's thought processes, it's probably an anomaly, it's not insane to want to give your body, and innermost feelings, ONLY to the one that you truly know and want to spend the rest of your life with.

Don't get me wrong, I KNOW exactly how hard it can be. There were many, many times that I was almost ready to crack and ask, cry, beg, wheedle, ANYTHING to get in bed with her, but I managed to keep my head above water one way or another.

So, yes, I do think it's possible. Besides, when you KNOW that the sex ain't gonna be there it frees you up to talk about so MANY other things.

[Andonius_99]

Funny, I was kind of the opposite...I knew many divorced families (mine included) when I was young. Divorce seemed to be an option for everyone, and, for the most part, everyone wasn't necessarily miserable, but it was obvious that they weren't as happy as they could have been. Oh well, guess I should learn something from that...

[gogeo]

I'm divorced and remarried. I've always had a good relationshiop with my pastor. I have no doubt he's a man of God.

I had several years worth of issues involving my ex-wife-from-hell and my daughter. At some point in the middle of this, probably three years after I'd re-married, he said, "You don't seem to have a settled mind about your divorce. Can we just agree that it was sin, and your sin is paid for?" I cried.

I'm of the belief that divorce is sin, but we can be forgiven.

[exnavychick]

LOL...I guess that means we're in the clear...from your perspective anyway. :) I'm sure there is someone else here who has an opposing viewpoint, but I haven't heard that yet.

Thanks for taking the time to explain. I appreciate it. :)

[Doohickey]

Polygamy was pretty widespread in the Old Testament as well as divorce, so go figure.

[Mark in the Old South]

Re: "best thing that ever happened to me,my former spouse,and our 5 kids(who were all adults when we were divorced)."

I hate to address a subject so personal, but since you made this public on a forum. The wisdom of this in your case I will not address (too little information) but I will say it is good your kids were adults or I doubt you would be able to make such a claim. I have seen it for myself and have heard too many day care workers and teachers who will say you can spot a minor from a broken home from across the room. These kids are scared and have an ax to grind. We have yet to see the effects of a general population where a sizable % of the population is in charge. The kids from broken homes of the 70's & 80's are just beginning to take the helm. Euthanasia is just one area you can see expansion. These kids (GROWING UP) in broken homes have learned one thing real well. It's all about the adults convenience and pleasure.

Please do not take this personal, it isn't meant to be. I am speaking in general.

[DainBramage]

Starting a bon fire

Will your spouse still be in the building?

[Conspiracy Guy]

Put me on the list and put Laura Earl on the list of never before married women sinful enough to marry a sinner.

[notigar]

not my personal view, by the way.

[hushpad]

Thanks. So I had it wrong, the woman does not commit adultery, but the men involved do. I hate counting on memory when scripture is involved, it causes a lot of misunderstandings.

[Ginifer]

"It's ok Ginifer....it's no real news, as we found out on the last judgement/stone casting/holier-than-thou thread we met on......."

How right you are TC. Let them throw stones. As soon as I become the "perfect" person (without sin), then maybe I'll change my mind...lol!

I'm sure some of the right-wing radical Christians are going to flame me, but it will just be practice for when I have to live for eternity in hades, being the "fallen person" I am.

[Minn]

The bottom line is that loving your spouse is a choice not an emotion and if you are truly attempting to be God pleasing you will choose to love your spouse period, even if you don't have strong emotional ties to them. In doing this God will bless you and in many cases provide you with the emotional attachment and excitement.

I am quite disgusted with several of my female childhood friends that have recently walked out on their marriages for no other reason than that they “weren’t happy”. Both claim they’re husbands did nothing wrong, tried their best, and are really nice guys. Both seemed unconcerned by fact that they were tearing their children away from their fathers. Both have lost a lot of my respect. Is it just me, or are women these days much more likely than men to walk for no particular reason, other than self absorption. It's like there's some cultural force telling them divorce is chic.

[Just another Joe]

Different folks, different stokes.

All I can say is that my wife and I would NEVER get a divorce. Seperate, if the situation was desperate enough, maybe.

[Gabz]

We were married by a Justice of the Peace.....

I understand what you are saying, JaJ, but there are exceptions, and saving one's physical life is one of them. When a spouse feels compelled to hide ammunition for the fear of being shot by the other spouse....it is definitely time to get out of Dodge.

OTOH you've met both coolbreeze and me, the idea of us ever seperating has never crossed either of our minds.

[exnavychick]

I guess that's why I'm left scratching my head over it, lol.

[Mears]

No offense taken----I was just speaking from my personal experience,the only one I know.

[exnavychick]

Let me clarify...I meant only that some faiths seem to interpret the same verses quite differently. :)

[notigar]

well, that's the way my English lit deconstructionist professor would've interpreted it. frees women up pretty good I think.