I have thought that even the democrats could use the 'abortion' issue with that position. Use the Presidency as a bully pulpit and speak about the evils of abortion constantly....but make no effort to change the legality. Perhaps, small changes, like notification, etc. I think people want to follow a moral leader...one who argues against abortions, but not for government involvement.
Who will disagree with a position that abortions are wrong, and should be preformed a rarely as possible? It is only when talking about legality that people start to get emotional. The goal should be to limit abortions, not to change legal text. (think about what you want....a law, or a change in abortions? I know I would not be satisfied with illegal abortions, but them still happening....I would be much happier with legal abortions, but millions fewer occuring.)
I agree with what you are saying. Pushing the legality aspect has led our side to suffer a steady stream of setbacks for a few decades now.
Our side should shape hearts and minds - that's the best avenue towards positive change on this issue. You are correct.