And you would be wrong.
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The key words here are "I think"...I, as in ME...My opinion. The use of a rod is repulsive to ME and it appears your opinion is different.
I think most caring parents do the best they can based on their upbringing, their knowledge, their temperaments, and the temperaments of their kids. My parents did the best they could based on what they knew at the time, as did their parents. I'm glad your chosen methods work for you. Mine are working for me.
I didn't write that, I was copying someone else.
As a parent of four kids, I am a firm believer in the wise, judicious use of pain for discipline and training.