You are so right. I lived it too, but as a boomer being left to watch my younger brothers every summer from the age of 12 on up, starting in 1967.
And no values either. Dad was a big atheist.
My parents were putting each other thru college.
One of my brothers died of AIDS in 1990.
The other has never had the courage to marry.
I still marvel at what my parents were willing to do to their childern, as I watch my daughter grow up.
Somehow, God found me and I got saved in my late twentys.
Married, stay-at-home mom, homeschooling our daughter.
There will be a bigger crop of people just like me coming into adulthood.
Your journey out of that dysfunctional family made me cry. Isn't it the most liberating thing to be "found" by God? You have been blessed. How can anyone have a negative thought about Christians? Christ has pulled so many millions of souls out of the muck and set them on the mountain. God bless you for caring for your family the right way.
God bless you.