Posted on 02/20/2005 2:47:36 PM PST by pickrell
We could have been better parents together, which no matter what our problems and disagreements were, I tried to work. We could have been a very good balance if she wanted balance
She didn't want compromise-she wanted capitulation on my part.
I called her standard "Being a Disney Channel Dad" Not my bag.
I do not knock her desire to be good parent. In many ways she is better equipped than I am.
My assessment is she is misguided by a desire to please. She is not negligent, just over accomodating.
As far as me being a better parent, I go back to my original statement. I could not do it alone. I don't think she can do it alone.
We needed to balance each other, and she does not want my balance. She wants soemone who is more sensitive
Dr. Spock gave us "sensitive". Now we have a generation of people who neither understand self-discipline nor respect authority. Screw "sensitive". Apply appropriate discipline, and forget Dr. Spock.
True-I get to see the result every day in my job as a cop
Unfortunately, I cannot forget the other parent who does not see things my way.
She has her agenda. It does not match with mine and she has not interest in suppoprting me.
I will do what I can
That's "no interest in supporting me"
God be with you, and with your children.
I catch my kids doing wrong and I will call them over to me...my (just turned 5 today) son will ask "Am I getting a spanking"...my answer..."Oh yeah, but it doesnt mean I don't love you!!"
He takes his spanking, crawls up in my lap and cries. I just hold him and tell him to not do it again. He tells me he is sorry...and that misjudgement is part of the past, never to be brought up again!
My daughter is a little more strong minded, but she knows when she has pushed mom to the limit. She sulks, but she knows it is best to learn from her mistakes!
Nice story! Pinging to make a copy. Yea being a Dad can be hard but I can't imagine anything else that I would rather be.
Thank you
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